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Being Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

It has come to my awareness that I tend to put myself in situations to liven up my experiences on earth. Most of the time, those experiences aren’t really to my benefit in other departments other than adventure. I get bored easily with the monotony of everyday life and seeking out new challenges makes life a little more enjoyable. Digging a little deeper, the adventurous lifestyle tends to be associated with the myth that everyone who travels constantly or gets into trouble or is always having something going on such as the glorified busyness of capitalism is avoiding something that they find difficult to deal with. This assumption is easy to grasp at when it’s hard to understand why anyone would want a life outside of what has been given to them. But the same can be said about people who do the same thing every single day. One can avoid the pile of paperwork they have to complete by going over to Sue on the next floor to talk about that new political issue that is overanalyzed in the news. Avoidance comes at every angle and it’s okay. 

It is through instinct and natural habit to avoid anything that causes pain, frustration, boredom, or any other unwanted feeling. The growth comes, though, in sitting with what’s uncomfortable. Sitting with that feeling allows you to actually face the situation for what it is. Acceptance of one’s feelings is important for growth because it teaches you that life is more than just the good stuff. Seeing the whole picture embraces us as human beings who have a wide range of emotions and experiences. We, humans, tend to create things that help us avoid the discomfort of everyday life. It’s much easier now to be entertained to our heart's desire and be distracted by various forms of content. We allow ourselves to drift away so that we can have a one-track mind about how we want our life to play out. But this doesn’t change the way our life is set up. The television shows we watch or the conversations we engage in to avoid the unwanted doesn’t make the pain go away. At the end of the day, we all will still face what’s coming. It’s a matter of whether or not you want to take care of it now or let it hit you later. Getting into the habit of sitting with what’s uncomfortable makes the process much easier to deal with. Being comfortable with being uncomfortable gradually lessens the discomfort by making you familiar with what you’ve been avoiding. The more you face what you’re running from, however big or small, the more you get stronger and better at recognizing that what you’ve been running from isn’t as bad as you thought. You’ll see growth if you take the time to sit with yourself and see that you have everything you need to tackle anything that is coming your way.